Welcome! We’re excited to have you be a part of our community!
Here we will share some simple guidelines that we all will embrace as a peaceful, progressive community.
Keep in mind that your use of Diaspure and any of its services demonstrates your acceptance of the terms laid out in these guidelines, in addition to our Disclaimers, Terms and Conditions, and Privacy Policy. If you disagree with this and all other policies, though we may be disappointed, you are free to discontinue the use of our Services.
OUR GOAL
The Diaspure community is a space for diverse communities to share and connect with each other. Diaspure intends to provide a safe space for the community to connect with each other in unique and convenient ways and learn and grow together. Hey. We can’t forget the fun!
CRITICISM
We embrace the use of criticism to help us grow! So please, feel free to respectfully challenge the information you find in the contents of our services. This includes listings, blog posts, video content, social media posts, etc. Please share your feedback with us at anytime.
**The delivery of your constructive criticism is key. How, you say?
Well, If our community is to be a thriving one that is considered a safe space that also encourages growth:
- Sharing racist, sexist, homophobic, or other forms of hate speech or contributions that could be interpreted as such
- Personal attacks, trolling, and other forms of abuse
- Expressing your views in ways that are divisive, toxic, or threatening to others
**Does not contribute to us achieving our goal.
We love your enthusiasm, however, please be mindful of what you share and how you say what you say.
**Please be respectful of others.
SHARING TOPICS OF INTEREST
You are free to share topics of interest to you, however, we understand, sometimes people may feel strongly about certain topics which others may misunderstand. Guess what, it’s ok to misunderstand someone or something, but be sure to consider the following:
- Misunderstandings are the perfect “opportunity” to gain and/or provide clarity
- So, how do you provide clarity?
- Have a plan for what you would like to share before sharing your views
- Break your ideas down into short lists
- Rather than using filler words or slang, utilize descriptive words
- Use specific examples to paint a picture in your audience’s mind
- Consider your audience by sharing what is “relatable” for them
- Be open to questions from your audience (this is a sign they are interested in what you’re sharing and this will prolong the discussion)
- Remember, everyone’s experience is different, therefore, this shapes our ways of thinking (mindset). This does not make you or them “more wrong or more right”.
- How do you gain clarity?
- Ask questions
- Listen to understand, not to judge or criticize. In other words, your intention is to “learn” new ideas about what is being shared (even if you disagree)
- You don’t have to agree, be “open” to the new ideas that are being shared
- Stay away from comparisons
- Remember everyone’s experience is different, so this influences the way they think. This does not make you or them “more wrong or more right”.
**Be open to helping others to understand, and be open to choosing to understand.
TONE
Have you ever read a text or email and thought, “Sheesh, they seem unpleasant”? It’s, unfortunately, more common than you think. Whether intentional or unintentional, our tone does not often reflect well via text. A useful writing tool is Grammarly which you can use to make corrections to your spelling and grammar when writing on various platforms, it even has a feature that can detect your writing “tone” emojis are used to reflect this. We find it to be highly effective.
OR
Have you ever read a book and felt happy, excited, or joyful during or after? Take a peek at this article on Masterclass of some techniques that writers use to achieve this.
**Remember, it’s not always what you say, it’s how you say it.
ME FIRST!
We all have something we’re excited to share, and we all believe our opinions are valuable. However, remember “humble” is always the way to go.
Say what?
Let’s face it, we are ALL selfish, even if today, you went out of your way to determine how precisely you will divide your favorite snack or meal between yourself and someone else, then carried out the act, I guarantee you, a few moments later you had a selfish thought. And you probably acted it out. It’s ok, none of us were born humble. If you have proof of this, the floor is open for you to respectfully challenge this thought. Overcoming selfishness is a daily battle.
We know, it feels good to always choose ourselves, because we get what we want, “Hello!” Sadly, this does not make for a harmonious community.
Remember:
- At some period in your life, you may have felt disrespected, disliked, unimportant, unintelligent, etc. all because someone interrupted you when you were speaking or about to speak, or dismissed you in some other way. Even if that was not their intention. Be sure to allow others the space to express themselves through their thoughts and/or actions. This is a sacrifice that is well worth it in the long run. “Most of us learn more when we listen and/or read than when we are the ones doing the sharing”. Let’s all embrace this principle within and outside of the community!
**Allow others the space to share freely.
CONFLICT
Sigh!
Wait a minute. Believe it or not, conflict can be good. “Positive conflict is good”. This gives birth to new ideas, provides opportunities to solve recurring problems, fosters creativity, and more. Take a look at this article on Entrepreneur that details the benefits of conflict.
Conflict is bad when we become less productive, and leads to bullying, discrimination, or harassment.
Sometimes it’s better to say nothing in response to an aggressor or remove yourself from a toxic situation.
- Emotional awareness is always key
- Empathy for others goes a long way
- And respect for one’s self and others is beneficial
Refrain from contributing to a bad situation by adding fuel to a heated discussion or offensive content or comments.
Offensive behavior is not tolerated by Diaspure, your privilege of using the services will be terminated if you participate or contribute to this behavior in any way.
Share concerns with us using the form on our contact page
**Positive conflict is better for your growth.
KEEP IT CLEAN
Imagine us visiting your home, walking proudly around your living room, kitchen, washroom, maybe even your bedroom, or on your brand new carpets with our dirty shoes on. We peek into a few cupboards, make loud noises that disturb the neighbors, drop a few crumbs here, a few crumbs there, a big mess over there. Then we leave. We imagine that would not be a pleasant experience for you.
If you were to do that to us while using our services, it’s not for us either. Even though it’s a virtual space, the expectation of not making a mess when you visit, being respectful of the space, and others using it in every way still remains the same.
- We reserve the right to remove content that will put us in legal jeopardy, offend others, or that does not pertain to the topics relevant to the community.
- We reserve the right to put an end to conversations that disturb the peace within the community.
- We encourage you to strive toward attaining all your goals and dreams and will do our best to assist in any way we can, however, we will remove any content, authorized or unauthorized, commercial or spam-like if they do not align with the goals for the community or Diaspure. There is a time and place for everything, please be respectful of that.
If you are interested in advertising opportunities, we would appreciate it if you contact us using the form on our partner page.
**Keep the space clean and inviting.
TREAT IT LIKE HOME
For those who love their homes, you want it to be a safe space for yourself and everyone in it, and we know you would do everything in your power to protect that. This space is yours, we encourage you to notify us of potential problems, and also help each other out when necessary (safely, respectfully, no need for unnecessary escalation of an issue, sometimes it’s okay to walk away from a problem, do not take handling serious matters into your own hands). Please be sure to report potential problems by contacting us.
- Please provide a detailed description of the problem
- Names of users involved,
- Relevant URLs
- And anything else you believe may be helpful.
While we will do our best to understand every situation, we have a ZERO tolerance policy, for cultural discrimination, gender discrimination, violence, threats, inappropriate or suggestive content, or any other kind of harassment or bad behavior of any kind. Violators will be permanently removed from the community. Diaspure will not be held liable for any loss of any kind to anyone in accordance with our Terms and Conditions of the Services and all applicable laws.
**This is an extension of your home.
If you disagree with these policies, while we appreciate your consideration, you are free to discontinue the use of our Services.
Remember
- **Be respectful of others.
- **Be open to helping others to understand, and be open to choosing to understand.
- **Remember, it’s not always what you say, it’s how you say it.
- **Allow others the space to share freely.
- **Positive conflict is better for your growth.
- **Keep the space clean and inviting.
- **This is an extension of your home.
- DON’T FORGET THE FUN!!!
Sincerely
Diaspure Team!